Who Am I?
Since I appreciate full disclosure, I’m letting it all out in the open: I’m Black (with Irish and Cherokee thrown in to fuck things up further), autistic, aromantic, noetisexual (a new term coined by yours truly), demisexual/asexual (though not a celibate one), organic multilinker, Relationship Anarchist, autodidact, relationship fluid (an invention of Louisa’s), disabled, single parent, in poverty, kinky switch/Dom/me, assigned female at birth, synesthetic (most notably visual/touch), intersex, genderqueer, Army brat, survivor of several forms of abuse, left-handed, singleish, and pansexual. If anything, I’m a metanoiac alethiologist.
What Have I Experienced?
My disabilities and health conditions consist of endometriosis, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, cPTSD, dysautonomia, fibromyalgia, EDS, eczema, secondary anxiety and depression. I’ve lived in severe poverty for my entire life, including prior, some recent and likely impending homelessness. I’ve had several major surgeries, survived more rapes than I can count, and narrowly escaped stalkers, domestic violence, and murderers. I’ve been writing cuil fiction, my invented intersectional queer and polya genre, for over 16 years. I raise my children non-traditionally with my sister. I’m also a not-quite widow; within months of one another I lost both a former female partner and a current male partner.
What Do I Know?
I attended many schools, majoring in areas as diverse as Drama, Instrumental Music, Choir, Dance, Aviation Maintenance, Teaching and Technology, Brain and Mind Studies (which includes an in-depth integrated approach to the different disciplines dealing with, well, the mind), Women Gender and Sexuality Studies, Objectivism.
Of course, that’s only my education on paper; since the age of 12 or so I’ve also been a voracious self-taught student of history, sexuality, religions, cosmology, philosophy, math, technology; anything that caught my fancy.
I spend the majority of my time presently engaging in fleshing out the many corners of the cuilverse (the fictional, intersectional world of my queer, polya characters); writing on Medium or otherwise educating folks online; and providing content for groups such as Intersectional Non-Monogamy (another invention of mine) and a few others of intersectional focus.
I’m also a contributor to Postmodern Woman, Crossing Genres, and Polyamory on Purpose. I did time as a transcriptionist and social media associate for Everyday Feminism. Additionally, I am a well-rounded speaker; offering a number of courses of varying topics I both have personal and educational experience with. I am the Sensitivity Editor and a founder for Cuil Press. I am also honored to serve as the Digital Content Outreach Coordinator for The Body is Not an Apology and as a board member of Hypatia Software.
What I Offer
I offer trauma-informed writing courses, intimacy/sex/non-monogamy/kink coaching, accountability services, offer advice for disability/neurodivergence/marginalization and relationships/sex/kink, and can teach on abuse culture and non-monogamy and invisible margins and surviving trauma and so much more. I can do presentations or one-on-one work as neeeded.