Who Am I?


Since I appreciate full disclosure, I’m letting it all out in the open: I’m Black (with Irish and Cherokee thrown in to fuck things up further), autistic, aromantic, noetisexual (a new term coined by yours truly), an iculasexual grey ace, organic multilinker, Radically (radical non-monogamy coined by Milton Goosby) Intersectional Non-Monogamist, autodidact, relationship fluid (term created by Louisa Leontiades), disabled, single parent, in poverty, kinky switch/Dom/me, assigned female at birth, synaesthetic (most notably visual/touch), intersex, Othergender, Army brat, survivor of several forms of abuse, left-handed, singleish, and pansexual. If anything, I’m a metanoiac alethiologist.


What Have I Experienced?


My disabilities and health conditions consist of endometriosis, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, cPTSD, dysautonomia, fibromyalgia, EDS, eczema, secondary anxiety and depression. I’ve lived in severe poverty for my entire life, including a recent long bout of homelessness. I’ve had several major surgeries, survived more rapes than I can count, and narrowly escaped stalkers, domestic violence, and murderers. I’ve been writing cuil fiction, my invented intersectional queer and polya genre, for over 16 years. I raised my children non-traditionally with my sister. I’m also a not-quite widow; within months of one another two disabled queer Black partners of different genders passed away.


What Do I Know?


I attended many schools, majoring in areas as diverse as Drama, Instrumental Music, Choir, Dance, Aviation Maintenance, Teaching and Technology, Brain and Mind Studies (which includes an in-depth integrated approach to the different disciplines dealing with, well, the mind), Women Gender and Sexuality Studies, Objectivism.

Of course, that’s only my education on paper; since the age of 12 or so I’ve also been a voracious self-taught student of history, sexuality, religions, cosmology, philosophy, math, technology; anything that caught my fancy.

I spend the majority of my time presently engaging in fleshing out the many corners of the cuilverse (the fictional, intersectional world of my queer, polya, spoonie characters); writing on Medium or otherwise educating folks online; and providing content for groups such as Integrated (formerly Intersectional) Non-Monogamy (another creation of mine) and a few others of intersectional focus.

I was a contributor to Postmodern Woman (as well as the sole editor after Louisa turned it over to me), Crossing Genres, and Polyamory on Purpose. I did time as a transcriptionist, contributor, and social media associate for Everyday Feminism. I was also honored to serve as the Digital Content Outreach Coordinator for The Body is Not an Apology and as a board member of Hypatia Software.

Currently, I am a well-rounded Public Speaker here at the revamped Postmodern Woman; offering a number of courses of varying topics I both have personal and educational experience with. Additionally, I am the Sensitivity Editor and a founder for Cuil Press.