Want to Know How to Lessen Your Suffering?

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Everyone seems to have suffered at some point in their lives. Buddhism is dedicated to teaching people how to suffer less. It talks a lot about detachment yet this can lead the status quo remaining unchallenged. Yet it’s not so much that we need to detach from everything so much …

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Polyamory Doesn’t Have to Be Queer

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Tinker, tailor, soldier, sailor. They could be your neighbours, friends, your postman. They might live their lives without drama, or publicity. Above all, they don’t call themselves polyamorous. And yet, they are. As an polyamory activist, I’ve found that having a word to define my unconventional relationships helped in the beginning. …

Stop Trying To Be Right About Non-Monogamy

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They’re still going round, these articles about how monogamy ain’t natural and quite frankly, I’m sick of them being used as a justification for open relationships and polyamory. Natural is one of those things that doesn’t seem to me to hold any superiority whatsoever. The human race has got where …

My Logical Love

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Unlike many poly folk, I never transitioned into being poly. I’d always liked or loved more than one person. It never made sense to me to arbitrarily limit affection, love, and time into one person. The idea of expecting one person to be everything you wanted and needed was strange …

Nothing for Granted

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Up front and honest. Heard and understood. Let’s both (all) be right. No either-or thinking. Surface vs. Substance. No expectations. Humanity (individuality) first. No defaults. In all things, my values came (and still come) first. I didn’t grow up with stability or honesty or respect. More often than not I …

Queer Comic Looks Set to Destroy the Closet

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It’s 2015. The bleed between high culture and popular culture grows ever more blurry, opinion and news is diffused via social media as opposed to authorised broadcasting channels, and for better or worse, bloggers and you tubers alike hold just as much sway as news anchors and politicians. The UN …

Ms. Captain on the High Seas: Gender Fluidity at a Pirate Sex Party

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Oh Captain, yes Captain sir, yes please sir, YESSS!  Lia is a half Japanese, half Jewish-American, poly queer girl. “I’ve got the Jewish guilt and Japanese shame,” she told us the first time we met for lunch, a few weeks before we invited her to be our date for a …

My Polyamorous Paris

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French people love themselves some sex, as far as I can tell. France has had multiple presidents of the Republic who have “openly” had (meaning been caught with) mistresses. One even divorced his wife and married his mistress while staying in office (but he didn’t get reelected). It’s totally, like, …