All we ask is to be acknowledged. Let people know we exist.

The privileged – those most likely to perpetuate or otherwise cover up or be oblivious to abuse – are usually the only ones profiting from lucrative gigs, getting all of the resources and support that rightly belong to the marginalized, the trauma experts, the invisiblized.

Instead of booking those more likely to be abusers as speakers at conventions, as relationship counselors, and to do any of this fucking intense emotional and intellectual labor with marginalized or vulnerable populations: encourage conferences, colleges, and conventions to seek us out first.

Funnel the support our way. Let us create the differences necessary to keep ourselves and one another safe and accountable. The world has been flipped upside down and turned inside out.

Who better to create metanoiac restoration than the true experts, those with experiences beyond that liminal edge, the ones who have built the foundations of the world?

These are our stories and services. May we hold you accountable?

I may be a token to some, but why don’t you spend me on improving yourself and the world?

This is my advice column, and covers more than the Ask a Black Person service.

Being a minority of marginalized identities – as well as studied in areas as diverse as philosophy, psychology, history, cosmology, and more – allows me to provide you with insight from a wide range of perspectives you’ll rarely have access to elsewhere.

This is perfect for those seeking relationship, life, and sexuality advice including but not limited to:

  • mixed relationships (like allo and ace/aro, different races, mono-poly, RA-swinger, etc)
  • aspects of abuse culture playing out in your life
  • how to support loved ones with various marginalizations (from being intersex to disability to neurodiverse)
  • alternatives for painful sex
  • building contextual consent
  • help determining which descriptive – rather than proscriptive – labels may be a good fit
  • help navigating the appropriateness of relationship types
  • kinky dynamics
  • more…
Hire me as a trauma-informed accountability counselor.

I am uniquely situated to speak on and provide guidance on a variety of issues revolving around relationships, non-monogamy, intersectionality, philosophy, ethics, trauma, abuse, sex, disability, marginalized populations, power dynamics, and much, much more.

Why Choose Me?

There’s a very good chance I’m one of the oddest people you’ll ever come across. I’ve had a highly unusual life and tend to fall into the most marginalized categories of both identities and experiences.

I can formulate individualized, victim-centered accountability plans involving but not limited to the following:

-the creation of pods
-outlining rules of engagement
-documented boundaries
-referrals to appropriate services
-education on the underlying dynamics/contextual history/required reading
-evaluations and follow-ups

Hire me to do a cuil sensitivity consult.

Not sure if your diverse characters are cutouts or dynamic? As a minority of minorities, I can certainly provide some insight into whether your story/ies will fall flat or resonate with the populations you’re writing about.

Hire me to speak or lead a workshop at your university, convention, or business.

Please do note that, considering my disabilities, my parenthood, and as these times have become even more dangerous for people like me, I have access needs that will have to be discussed prior to my attendance.

List of courses (including but not limited to):

*The Metanoia Package:

-Unraveling Abuse Culture
-Riel’s Sensuality and Trauma Education
-Contextual Consent
-Beyond Empathy: Developing Emotional Intelligence

*The Media Package:

-How to Write Cuil

*The Unveiling Pacakage:

-The Forgotten Queers
-Life, Liberty, and The Pursuit of Black People
-The Invisibility of Disability

*The Relationship Package:

-Aro Eros Arrows
-The Expanded Sexual Spectrum
-Integrated Non-Monogamy
-Woke Kinksters

*The Privilege Pacakage:

-Parental/Caregiver Privilege
-From Ally Inaction to Accomplice in Action

Click here to contact me. You know you want to!